Why Whatcha Want and Whatcha Get Don’t Match

God Sized Dreams 3

“He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart.” — King Solomon

“You git what you git and you don’t throw a fit.” — Southern Saying

As I drive my thoughts zip down a two lane road in my mind as well. In one lane, I’m thanking God for answered prayers and desires granted. In the other lane, I’m feeling frustrated that my day-to-day reality doesn’t always line up with the magnificent vision I have in mind. I long to see a sign from God that one day those two lanes will merge. When will that finally happen?

It seems God has an answer for me. Um, heaven.

Oh, right. I should have seen that one coming.

We live in a paradox, friends. We are not Home yet. And on the journey to where we’re going, what we can dream up and what actually unfolds in our lives are never going to align perfectly. Never. I’m not saying that to be a stinker. I’m saying it to save us from one of the biggest dream killers: unrealistic expectations.

If we demand that our perfect vision be fulfilled then we will never be satisfied.

Not with our dreams.

Not with our marriage.

Not with our job.

Not with our church.

Not with ourselves.

“So why bother dreaming?” you might ask. It’s simply this: “Where there is no vision the people perish” {Proverbs 29:18 KJV}. In other words, our dreams and desires pull us toward life. They draw us toward Home. They keep us looking to God for his best in our lives. That’s a good and beautiful thing.

It’s only when we turn our desires into demands that we get into trouble.

You know what I’m talking about, don’t ya? Yes, ma’am, we all do.

What can we do to avoid that? First, we can accept that we will live between those two lanes all of our lives here on earth: the ideal and the real, the eternal and the everyday. Then we intentionally thank God for what’s less than perfect. And at the same time we keep pressing toward the vision he’s placed in our hearts.

We live in the paradox.

We release our expectations and yet we continue to look to the future with expectation.

One mile, one day, one dream at a time.

Yes, all the way Home.

XOXO

Holley

You’re Going to Get There–One Way or Another

Spring break is in the air and it seems everyone I know is heading somewhere. Imagine if a friend asked me, “Where are you going?” And I replied, “Highway 12.” She’d probably smile a bit and ask again, “I mean what’s your destination?”

Similar conversations happen all the time.

Where are you going as a writer? “Publishing a book.”

Where are you going as a speaker? “Conference keynotes.”

Where are you going with your job? “A promotion.”

In much the same way, I often smile a bit and ask again, “I mean what’s your destination?” Usually that leads to confused looks and a helpful conversation. It’s one I love having with women, especially {e}coaching clients, because it’s one that personally changed my life. I used to think the route and the destination were the same thing. But they’re not.

God has called me to encourage women: that’s my destination.

Publishing a book is one route.

Writing on this blog is another.

{e}coaching is still one more way.

If I woke up tomorrow and found written communication had been completely roadblocked for me I would still have the same calling. I’d just need to get creative about finding a new way to get there. When I think about the late-late years of my life, I picture myself sitting at the retirement center, leaning over a cookie that’s easy to chew and saying, “You have a God-sized dream, Gertrude! It’s not too late!” As long as I’m alive, I’m going to find ways to encourage women. I’m committed to a destination not to a particular pathway.

That’s freeing because it means that obstacles don’t have to stop us, dead ends can turn into new directions, and we can’t fail because one way or another we’re going to get there.

YOU are going to get there.

Yes, of course, it’s discouraging when we plan for a particular route only to find the way blocked by road construction. But if we’re on our way to the vacation of a lifetime we don’t turn the car around and say, “Well, I guess that didn’t work out.” We don’t feel ashamed or like a failure. We just think, “Okay, time for a new strategy.” Or as my bossy little GPS says, “Recalculating.”

I don’t say this lightly. I know the ache and hurt and resilience it takes to keep going. When my husband and I started down the road to having physical children and God revealed that our route to bringing life into the world would happen in a completely different way–through words–it took some getting used to and I had some long conversations with God that included many tears. But having made it to the Promised Land in that area of my life I can say with all my joyful heart that it has been so worth it. And I’m so glad I let God redirect me. His plans were so much better than what I mapped out.

You’re going to get there, friend, one way or another.

Keep going.

And know that you’re being cheered on with love every bit of the way.

XOXO

Holley

 

p.s. Sometimes when we’re really focused on the destination we can miss the journey along the way. Tomorrow in our God-sized dreams link-up we’ll be sharing: What’s a typical day in your life like right now? How can you see God’s hand in the middle of the “small” and ordinary too?

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Just for You

Two of my favorite creative women in the whole wide world are Dee Kasberger from Red Letter Words and Lisa Leonard {who makes fabulous jewelry}. I know many of you love them too! So when I had the chance to team up with them and DaySpring to bring you some new ways to be encouraged in your God-sized dreams journey I was thrilled. Here’s what we created together with you in mind…

God-sized Dreams Gifts 2

{Left to Right: The Day Had Come to Open the Door to Her Dreams Art Print, Dream God-sized Dreams Bracelet, Dreamed Up in God’s Heart Art Print}

You can find all three on DaySpring.com and get 25% on any or all of them with coupon code holley25 until March 31st {psst…these would make great Graduation and Mother’s Days gifts for the dreamers you want to encourage too}. I’m so excited that Dee, Lisa and I get to be in your homes and hearts in these new ways. Every time you look at these I hope you think of us cheering wildly for you and your God-sized dreams!

It’s Okay if You Want to Quit Sometimes

photo by D Sharon Pruitt

photo by D Sharon Pruitt

There will come a day, an hour, a moment when you say: “I’ve had enough.”

Who knows what may push you to the edge…another disappointment, someone cutting you off in traffic {or on the journey to your dreams}, opening the cupboard to find someone has taken the last cookie.

What’s important to know is that we all go to that place.

Even Jesus did in the Garden of Gethsemane before the cross when He said, “Let this cup pass from me…”

In other words, “I don’t want to be facing this right now.”

It’s human to grow weary.

It’s okay to want to give up.

It’s understandable to want to quit.

What matters isn’t avoiding those moments but instead learning to lean into them–or rather lean into the One who loves us.

“Yet not My will but Yours be done.”

When we tell ourselves, “I shouldn’t feel this way” then we cut ourselves off from the help we need.

Instead we can say, “I do feel this way. Now what do I need to get through this?”

It might be help from a friend.

It might be a reminder of Truth.

It might be a nap {yes, really}.

Fight the guilt. Fight the shame. Fight the temptation to believe no one else ever feels this way.

We all do.

And together with Jesus we will make it through.

XOXO

Holley Gerth

 

p.s. I recently talked to Bekah from the Mid-Morning show about God-sized Dreams, overcoming fear, {e}coaching and more. You can download the file and listen here {my segment starts at around the 22 minute mark and it’s about ten minutes long}.