Beauty Comes from Broken Places

Growth is a process, not an event. #YoureLovedNoMatterWhat by @holleygerth http://holleygerth.com

There’s an old story about two pots. One was perfect in every way. The other had cracks and broken places. Each day a woman filled the pots with rainwater she collected and then carried them down the path to her home. The first pot felt proud that she never leaked a single drop. The other felt ashamed because no matter how hard she tried, she spilled a lot along the way.

One day the two pots overheard the woman talking with someone who lived nearby. The neighbor exclaimed, “The flowers along your path are so beautiful! What’s your secret?”

The woman answered, “One of my pots is broken, and the water that spills out helps the flowers grow every day.”

We think that we have to take what’s broken and make it perfect in order to be used by God and bless others. But God thinks in a completely different way. He took what was perfect, His Son, and made Him broken in order to bring us healing.

So if you’re sitting there wondering if God can use you because your life is not as it should be, and your heart is aching—know that your greatest hurt will probably be your greatest ministry. Like the disciple Thomas who doubted until he touched the scars of Jesus, some people in your life need to see your broken places more than your victories.

We’re all like the second pot in the story. God sees purpose in our brokenness even when we don’t, and He can use it to bring forth beauty that blesses those around us.

XOXO

Holley Gerth

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Welcome to the Coffee for Your Heart weekly link-up! You’re an encourager so I’m asking you to pour out a little love with your words every Wednesday {link-up goes live at 5:30am CST}. Simply write an encouraging blog post and then share it here. Don’t have a blog? You can still write an encouraging comment. If you’re reading this by email, go to holleygerth.com to see all the fun and join in too.

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The prompt for today was: What truth do you need to be reminded of?

Next Wednesday’s prompt is: Where have you seen beauty from brokenness?

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Healing Our Souls from Hurry

God isn't in a hurry. He never runs out of time because He has eternity. So do we. http://HolleyGerth.com

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I sit on the back porch rocking in a chair and staring at the trees. It’s hard for me to be here in this place of stillness. My to-do list tugs at my mind, beckons me back inside, but I pull my knees closer to my chest and stay.

I watch birds find dinner at the feeder. A baby squirrel balances tentatively on a limb. The laughter of children drifts over the fence. The trees whisper “shhh, shhh” with their branches. And it seems they are speaking to the stream of thoughts running endlessly through my mind.

I think of the first Psalm where a person who walks closely with God is described as being “like a tree planted by the rivers of water…that brings forth fruit in its season.”

Fruit in its season. 

That phrase feels awkward to me. It’s not instant or immediate. It implies waiting and patience. It doesn’t fit in our fast-paced, get-it-done, make-every-second count world. But as I stare at the trees I’m reminded of how we’re created to live. We need silence and stillness because it’s in those moments that growth happens.

Fruit in its season.

I think of the blueberries now ready just down the road. I wait all year for those berries. And they taste so much sweeter because of the wait. God isn’t in a hurry. He never runs out of time because He has eternity. So do we. And God doesn’t need me to make five, fifteen, or forty more bushels. The expectations I place on myself are more mine than His.

As Ann Voskamp says, “Haste makes waste. The hurry makes us hurt.

I seem to hear another whisper as I sit on the porch. This time it comes not from the branches of the trees but from within my heart. The One Who Loves Me whispers “Shhh, shhh.” It sounds like an invitation that could heal my soul. And this time I listen, embracing the new stillness in and around me.

There will be time for fruit tomorrow, or the next day…whenever the season is right.

I hope you have a restful weekend, friend.

XOXO

Holley Gerth

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God Won’t Hurry Our Hearts

God will not rush your healing. And God will not rush your growth. http://HolleyGerth.com

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I stare out the window into the backyard. From my breakfast table I can see a robin fluffing out her feathers. The trees reach up to the sky with new leaves that wave good morning. A chubby squirrel gathers a few acorns to save for later. As I look, I realize the pace beyond my windows is so different than the one within them. We, as humans, are tempted to hurry. And yet it seems God is intent on slowing us down.

He gives us a Sabbath and we work through the weekend.

He gives us three meals a day to let us slow down and we pick fast food.

He gives us eight hours of sleep a night and we try to squeak by on far less.

We hurry when we’re afraid that we’ll be late, miss out on something, or disappoint someone. God doesn’t need to hurry because He has all the time in eternity. This is good news for us, friends. It means…

God will not rush your healing.

And God will not rush your growth.

God is okay with where you are right now. He’s not tapping His toe impatiently. He’s not looking at His watch with a sigh. He’s not trying to get you out the door a few minutes sooner. The God who loves you is willing to give you the time you need. All of time belongs to Him and He is generous with it. He gives it freely to fluffy birds and budding trees and chubby squirrels.

And He’ll give it to your heart–as much as you need.

XOXO

Holley Gerth

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Get Back Up and Try Again

It's time to start living fully instead of just trying not to fail. http://holleygerth.com #YoureLovedNoMatterWhat

Gymnasts practice their routines over and over again. By the time they get to the world competition level, their performances are expected to be flawless. Yet Shawn Johnson hit what could have been a serious snag in her career at an important moment. She says in Winning Balance, “That day when I went up for the beam, I fell twice in the same routine. This, of course, is unheard of. If you fall, you fall. But normally you don’t fall twice . . . especially in the event finals.”

Devastated and with more of the competition to go, Shawn walked back into the training gym to talk with her coach, Chow. He said, “Mistakes are mistakes. . . . Something was simply off.” Then he added, “You know, things happen. Mistakes happen. But it’s time to pick yourself up. You have another event.”

Shawn Johnson took her coach’s words to heart and went on to finish competing that day. She eventually became an Olympic gold medalist. Her coach understood this: without mistakes, we don’t get better. Shawn didn’t intentionally sabotage her routine. She wasn’t being rebellious. She was simply being human. There’s a distinct difference between a mistake and a sin.

Mistakes help us learn.

Sin is a choice we deliberately make even though we know better.

Mistakes are done with innocence.

Sin comes from a heart that holds rebellion.

Mistakes lead to growth.

Sin leads to decay.

Not only will you make mistakes, you must make mistakes. That’s the way babies learn to walk, kids find out how to ride bikes, and grown-ups figure out how to find their way in the world.

As Shawn Johnson learned, the only way to stand tall is to accept that sometimes you will fall. When you make mistakes, God doesn’t condemn you. He says what Shawn’s coach did: “Pick yourself up. You have another event.” You will hear that over and over until you’re home in heaven.

But sometimes we don’t do what Shawn did. Instead we say, “I totally ruined everything. I’ve let down the people who loved and invested in me. I didn’t meet the expectations. I’m not living up to my potential. In order to keep from being a further disappointment, I’m stepping out of the arena altogether.” Then we live safe, mediocre lives and breathe big sighs of relief because while we’re not doing anything really great, at least we’re not failing.

Listen, friend, that kind of thinking doesn’t come from your heavenly Father. It comes from the enemy of your soul who would love nothing more than to see you stop using your gifts, strengths, and skills to make a difference in the world.

Because here’s the secret: in the kingdom of God, as long as you’re still fighting, you’re winning. God doesn’t hand out medals for performance. He hands out crowns for perseverance. The Olympics began in ancient Rome, and it’s likely the apostle Paul had them in mind when he said, “Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever” (1 Cor. 9:25).

Practice doesn’t make perfect, because that’s impossible this side of heaven. Practice makes a person who will try again, and that’s what God desires. No matter how far or how often you’ve fallen, you can still get back up today. Can your heart hear the cheers as you do?

XOXO

Holley Gerth

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Welcome to the Coffee for Your Heart weekly link-up! You’re an encourager so I’m asking you to pour out a little love with your words every Wednesday {link-up goes live at 5:30am CST}. Simply write an encouraging blog post and then share it here. Don’t have a blog? You can still write an encouraging comment. If you’re reading this by email, go to holleygerth.com to see all the fun and join in too.

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The prompt for today was: What’s one thing that helps you say “no” to what’s good so you can say “yes” to God’s best?

Next Wednesday’s prompt is: Who has inspired you because of their perseverance?

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When You Need to Shred Your Past

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I pull the dusty journal from the corner of my nightstand and open to the first page. It’s dated July, 1996 and I’ve just graduated high school. I’m wrestling with who I am, who God is and what my future holds. I’ve grown weary of trying to be the “good” girl and I’m contemplating using college as a chance to rebel.

I want to grab that girl by the shoulders and say, “Don’t do it! You’re only setting yourself up for heartbreak!” But I can’t reach back through time and I already know how the story goes. That “good” girl goes off to college and makes some very destructive choices. By the last page of that diary she’s broken and it will take years for God to fully put the pieces back together again.

I set the book down and feel a wave of guilt wash over me. I hadn’t thought about those mistakes in so long. Suddenly I find myself begging God again, “Please forgive me.” And it seems He whispers to my soul, “I already did long ago.”

I realize then that I’m the one who can’t completely release my past. Sure, I don’t display it on the mantle of my living room. But I still have a place for it in my life–even if it’s just the dark corner of a nightstand where no one but me is likely to see it.

The time has come to really let go.

So this morning I did what I should have years ago. I tore that journal apart page by page and put it through our shredder.

When I got done all that remained was the cover…and one blank page. I laughed out loud when I saw it. Because I would have sworn last night I’d written on every square inch of paper. But isn’t that just like God? We think we’re done and He says, “There’s always room for a new beginning.”

I’m going to put that empty cover with the blank page back in my nightstand and pull it out again when I need to remember this: If God didn’t give up on me then, He’s not going to give up on me now.

Because here’s the uncomfortable truth: I will make more mistakes. Maybe not the same kind I did as a teenager but as long as I’m on earth I will fail and fall and need forgiveness.

Thankfully the true Author of my life is willing to let me start with a blank page as many times as needed. He’s offering the same to you. We all have parts of our story we would never want anyone to read. Moments the enemy loves to point to then say with a hiss, “God could never use you because of this.” Mistakes that make us look at each other and think, “She could never have done anything so shameful.”

But those are lies, friends. And when we look at each other, we only see the cover. We’re not that different. We’re all human and in need of new-page grace from a Savior Who’s a relentless Redeemer.

Will you join me in shredding your past? 

It’s time to let go and make room for the next chapter…

XOXO

Holley Gerth

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