Our lives are about love and not performance. #YoureLovedNoMatterWhat by @holleygerth

I recently picked up my phone in the middle of a wild week to text a friend about a lie that my heart kept hearing. Then I simply asked, “What’s the truth? I can’t come up with it right now.”

She wrote back and told me what I already knew deep inside but couldn’t quite recall in the moment. I read her words over and over, then got up with new strength to face the day.

Years ago I wouldn’t have sent that text. I would have tried to come up with the truth on my own. I would have given in to shame and guilt. I would have spent the day thinking about how everyone else was more spiritual than me and how I should try harder. But I’m learning this: it really is okay to call for backup.

Most of us know the story of the man lowered down through a roof by his friends so he could be laid at the feet of Jesus and find healing (see Mark 2:1–12). We all have days when our hearts, not our bodies, need the same thing.

We think if we can just muster up enough “faith,” then we should be able to get there ourselves. But that’s not the way it works. And, friend, when we refuse to let others help us, it’s not being spiritual . . . it’s pride. (Yeah, I don’t like hearing that either.)

We’re made to share life with each other. We’re made to say, “I need you. Please help me.” Those aren’t words of weakness—they’re the strongest words we can say. It’s easy to try to figure things out on our own. It’s much harder to say, “Please carry my heart to Jesus today.”

But you know what? The man who was healed that day wasn’t the only one who received a blessing. His friends did too because they got to be part of the work God was doing. We can give people in our lives that same opportunity when we stop trying to be perfect and instead simply let them love us.


Holley Gerth

From You’re Loved No Matter What: Freeing Your Heart from the Need to Be Perfect

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The prompt for today was: Where are you learning and finding freedom from perfection?

Next Wednesday’s prompt is: What truth do you need to be reminded of?

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About Holley

About Holley

Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author and Life Coach

I like humans, words, and good coffee. And I’d love to help you beat what’s holding you back, become all you’re created to be, and kick butt for the greater good.

Cheering you on,


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