You asked: How do I help a friend who’s hurting?

encouragement is giving someone courage

I’m often asked what to say or do in difficult situations. As a counselor and life coach, I still believe the best encouragement is simply the presence of another person who cares.

Even in a professional counseling relationship, research has shown that the connection between the client and counselor accounts for 70 percent of the outcome.

If words do come to mind, share them gently with grace and affirmation—the way Jesus does with you. But just being there is enough.

Encouragement literally means to give someone courage. It helps us get back up, face our day with joy, and fulfill the purpose God has for us. It’s more than a simple pat on the back or a feel-good pep talk. It’s fuel for our faith that provides what we need to move forward even on the most difficult of days.

You’re an encourager and with God you have all you need to make a difference in the lives of whoever you meet today. Truly.




If You Liked this Post, You’ll Love these Resources
The Encouragement Project: 21 Heart-to-Heart Ways to Show You Care (a helpful little book that costs less than a latte!)
– Episode 15 of More than Small Talk: Knowing How to Really Help (on or your favorite podcast app)


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About Holley

About Holley

Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author and Life Coach

I like humans, words, and good coffee. And I’d love to help you beat what’s holding you back, become all you’re created to be, and kick butt for the greater good.

Cheering you on,


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