You Have Permission to Say “No”

Love All Please One by Aliza Latta

We live in a world with millions of words. Yet out of all those syllables and sentences, two little letters seem to hold the most power: “no.”

We fear “no.”

We avoid it.

We misunderstand it.

But being able to say and hear no is essential to surviving and thriving, to loving and being loved, to following Jesus. He actually said no a surprising amount, and usually to what looked like excellent opportunities on the surface.

No to becoming King (see John 6:15).

No to offers of instant satisfaction, wealth, and power (see Matt. 4:1–11).

No to coming right away when Lazarus became deathly ill–which then led to his miraculous resurrection (see John 11).

It’s a divine mystery: when we say and hear no freely, we give God room to work, to amaze us, to give us back to each other again. And when love purposefully and prayerfully says no along the way, it always leads us to a greater yes in the end.

What’s one thing that helps you say “no” to what’s good so you can say “yes” to God’s best?

photo by my dear friend Lisa-Jo Baker

photo by my dear friend Lisa-Jo Baker


Holley Gerth

Inspired by my new book, You’re Loved No Matter What: Freeing Your Heart from the Need to Be Perfect


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The prompt for today was: What’s your story of wrestling with trying to be “perfect”? How is God setting you free?

Next Wednesday’s prompt is: What’s one thing that helps you say “no” to what’s good so you can say “yes” to God’s best?

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About Holley

About Holley

Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author and Life Coach

I like humans, words, and good coffee. And I’d love to help you beat what’s holding you back, become all you’re created to be, and kick butt for the greater good.

Cheering you on,


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