A Few Thoughts, 2 Questions, and 1 Truth to Help When Life Feels Like Too Much

I’m sitting in a booth at a local breakfast place, the smell of bacon and coffee fills the air and, unexpectedly, tears fill my eyes. “Sometimes it feels like too much,” I say to my friends sharing the table with me.

Have you found yourself saying the same? Perhaps it’s your to-do list, the news headlines, conflict with family, the laundry piling up on your closet floor, the worries pulling at your mind when you try to sleep at night.

One of my dear friends, who knows and loves me well, looks at me and says simply, “I have two questions for you. What is truly yours to hold? And what do you need to let go of?”

I didn’t have easy answers in that moment. But I took those questions to heart, and I’m slowly discovering what I have picked up that Jesus never asked me to carry. It might be a burdensome task, the well-being of a person I love, or a heavy “should” that’s landed on my shoulders.

I’m learning to pray, “God, I let go of what You never asked me to hold on to so tightly.” I imagine opening my hands and freeing whatever I’ve been trying to grasp, like a child releasing a firefly into the evening sky.

If something truly is mine to carry, then I can ask, “What will make this lighter?” Often the answer includes asking for help and not trying to do it all myself. Sometimes it means making sure I get the emotional support I need to sustain my strength, like I did with my friends. On some days it’s as simple as a nap.

Letting go of something feels vulnerable and sometimes I even worry that it means I’m weak. But we are not pack mules made to carry ever-heavier loads; we are beloved children made in the image of a God who longs for us to be free.

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.” (Matt. 11:28)

We’ve heard these words before, we’ll never stop needing to hear them again. May we set down what’s heavy today, may we travel with the lightness of grace, may we trust how much we’re already loved.

More for You

In case you missed it, we’ve had some great guests on the More than Small Talk podcast! Hannah Hall shared with us what our thirsty souls really need right now. Listen in!

Did you know I also have a new podcast with my business partner, Jason Rovenstine? We recently did an episode with Keanu Trujillo about Enneagram Hacks for your God-sized Dreams.

I’m so happy it’s finally Spring, a time when everything is growing. If you’re ready to grow too then my online courses like Be a Kick-Butt Writer by Friday or 7 Ways to Thrive as an Introvert will help you!

p.s. This cute little dude definitely helps me feel lighter…

ice cream date

My grandson Clem and I on an ice cream date. ☺

About Holley

About Holley

Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author and Life Coach

I like humans, words, and good coffee. And I’d love to help you beat what’s holding you back, become all you’re created to be, and kick butt for the greater good.

Cheering you on,


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