When You Need to Call for Back Up


I pick up my phone in the middle of a wild week and text the lie that my heart is hearing to a friend. Then I simply ask, “What is the truth? I can’t come up with it right now.” She writes back and tells me what I already know deep inside but can’t quite manage to find in the moment. I read her words over and over then get up with new strength to face the day.

Years ago I wouldn’t have sent that text. I would have tried to come up with the truth on my own. I would have given in to shame and guilt. I would have spend the day thinking about how everyone else was my spiritual than I am and how I should try harder. But I’m learning this…

It’s okay to call for back-up.

Most of us know the story of the man lowered down through a roof by his friends so he could be laid at the feet of Jesus and find healing. What I think many of us don’t realize is that there are days when it’s our hearts, not our bodies, that need the same thing. We think if we can just muster up enough “faith” then we should be able to get there ourselves. But that’s not the way it works.

And, friends, when we refuse to let others help us it’s not being spiritual…it’s pride {ouchie}.

We’re made to share life with each other. We’re made to say, “I need you. Please help me.” Those aren’t words of weakness–they’re the strongest words we can say. Because it’s easy to try to figure things out on our own. It’s much harder to say, “Please carry my heart to Jesus today.” But you know what? The man who was healed that day wasn’t the only one who received a blessing. His friends did too because they got to be part of the work God was doing.

When you really need help and you ask for it, you’re not becoming a burden. You’re offering an opportunity for someone to be part of a blessing. Let that sink in and then send a text, make a phone call, share your heart with someone over coffee. Whatever your heart needs today.

It really is okay to call for back-up.



About Holley

About Holley

Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author and Life Coach

I like humans, words, and good coffee. And I’d love to help you beat what’s holding you back, become all you’re created to be, and kick butt for the greater good.

Cheering you on,


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