You don’t have to be balanced {hurray!}

Ocean Splash photo by D Sharon Pruitt {flickr creative commons} Earlier this week I had a decision to make and I asked someone I trust for wisdom. The response? Not a strategic plan or five steps to success. Instead a simple, “It’s okay to say ‘no’, Holley.”

And I realized that’s exactly what I needed to hear. I tend to want to please people, to keep them happy, to worry that someone will misunderstand my heart.

The other side of the spectrum is true as well. There have been times when it seems God has asked me to embrace new challenges. “I don’t have what it takes to say ‘yes’ to that!” I squeak. And then He gently shows me that, in spite of my fears, I actually do. 

It’s a constant back and forth between “yes” and “no” in our lives. And I imagine it will always stay that way. I don’t believe in balance–I believe in being led by the Spirit. If you look at the life of Jesus, it was wildly imbalanced.

When we get stuck–when we always say “yes” or always say “no” then that’s when we need to be concerned. Because we’re called to freedom, to flow, to embracing whatever God puts in front of us whether it’s little or much.

Imagine standing at the edge of the beach and hearing the ocean say, “But I just want balance.” We’d shake our heads and laugh. “Silly ocean,” we’d say, “You’re made for movement. You’re made for waves. We need you to be that way for the world to work.”

Are you stuck today in a season of always saying “yes” or always saying “no”? Then let me lean in and whisper to your heart, “It’s okay to let go of control.”  

The God who shaped the universe with just a few words has promised to take care of you. He loves you and He’ll be with you through all the ups and downs, “yes” and “no’s”.


It makes for a pretty boring ride.

And you, my fabulous friend, were made for so much more.

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About Holley

About Holley

Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author and Life Coach

I like humans, words, and good coffee. And I’d love to help you beat what’s holding you back, become all you’re created to be, and kick butt for the greater good.

Cheering you on,


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