Why You Don’t Have to Say “I’m Fine” Today

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If perfectionism could be identified by one phrase, it would be this: “I’m fine.” We falsely believe being perfect means not needing anything. But we’re not God and we’re always in need. Every single one of us.

Even that woman you think has it all together. Maybe especially her. None of us are self-sufficient. We’re not supposed to be. God created us to need Him and each other.

One of the hardest parts of overcoming perfectionism is raising our hands, opening up our hearts, and simply saying, “I need help.”

A friend of mine recently went through a difficult time, and as several of us gathered around her to offer support, she kept saying, “I’m not allowed to be broken.” How many of us have felt that way? I certainly have.

This friend is incredibly kind and generous. If you need anything, she’s there. So we gently asked, “How does it make you feel when you help us?” She looked up with tears in her eyes and said, “It’s good. It makes me feel valued and loved.” We responded, “Then give us the gift of helping you now.”

This the incorrect belief we have to change: if we need help, we’re a burden. Because the opposite is true. In the kingdom of God, it’s more of a blessing to give than receive. So don’t deprive those around you of those benefits just because you’re afraid of what they may think of you.

Let’s give others the gift of helping us. We need it—and they need to see we’re not perfect because it sets them free to ask for help and grace too.


Holley Gerth

P.S. Have you read the beautiful words of Claire Diaz-Ortiz? She is like a travel guide for life. Her stories and insights will give you a vision of where you want to go and practical steps that will help you get there. I encourage you to check out her newest book, The Better Life. You’ll be more filled with joy, peace, and what truly matters to you by the time you finish the final page.

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Photo by the lovely Mindy Gordon.

Photo by the lovely Mindy Gordon.

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The prompt for today was: Who in your life lives these words: “I don’t have it all together. But I believe we’re better together.”

Next Wednesday’s prompt is: Do you have a hard time asking for or accepting help?

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About Holley

About Holley

Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author and Life Coach

I like humans, words, and good coffee. And I’d love to help you beat what’s holding you back, become all you’re created to be, and kick butt for the greater good.

Cheering you on,


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