The Rest of Your Story 19: What if your history hurts?


Red Ball photo by D Sharon Pruitt (flickr)

To start from part one, click here.

Some of you are saying, “I want to go in new directions but I don’t know how to move on from the past.” I’ve read your comments. All of them.

In the Meaningful Memories post many of you mentioned it was hard to find even one good memory. I left a comment for you too…

“For those of you who said it can be hard to find a happy memory…you are so right. Hurt seems to stay right there on the surface. Digging through it to the joy takes a lot of work! I am sorry for the heartache you’ve endured.

I wish I could take each ‘little girl you’ in my arms today. I would set you on my lap, look into your beautiful eyes, and tell you…

‘This is never how God intended it to be. You are loved, chosen, cherished, wanted, of great worth, and you will amount to MUCH in His Kingdom.’ “

We live in a fallen world. None of our stories are as they should be, some more than others. I wish I could make healing happen right here, right now. As you already know, it’s a journey far more complicated than a blog post. 

As I thought of you, my eyes drifted to my bookshelf. And I want to share several books that have helped in my personal healing…

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Making Peace with Your Past by H. Norman Wright

Recovering from Losses in Life by H. Norman Wright

Changes that Heal by Dr. Henry Cloud

Life’s Healing Choices by John Baker

Breaking Free by Beth Moore

Rain on Me by Holley Gerth  

(I wrote this book out of my ongoing journey of loss. It’s about healing in the middle of the storm, even if you don’t know when blue skies are coming.)

Whether your hurts are recent (like mine) or from many years ago, God cares.

It’s a bit of a cliché but still too true not to say…

He really does want to transform our history into HIS STORY.

Today the next S.T.E.P. for all of us is just whispering a ten word prayer, “A little more healing, Lord, a little more healing today….”

I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland…so my chosen people can be refreshed. – God, Isaiah 43

** If the hurts in your history are interfering with your daily life I would encourage you to seek out a trusted counselor. (I have several times!) To find one, visit The American Association of Christian Counselors e-counseling site.


TODAY’S QUESTION: What has helped bring healing to your history?

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About Holley

Wall Street Journal Bestselling Author and Life Coach

I like humans, words, and good coffee. And I’d love to help you beat what’s holding you back, become all you’re created to be, and kick butt for the greater good.

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